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Thursday, January 14, 2016

Whose Business is it Anyway?

   Sitting in the doctors office and the question comes up,  "How many more times do you want to do this?" My eyes filled with tears and I choked out "I don't know".... For the first time in my 19 years of motherhood my  answer was not "At least once more!".. I have always, always wanted more babies, but this pregnancy with all of it's issues, has definitely taken it's toll on me. (Plus the matter might be completely out of my hands, but I will post more about that on another day.) So it's something that has been on my mind and heart lately. 
    Honestly I have never, that I remember, had any negative comments from the general public about the size of my family. I feel almost that I have negative attitudes more from the Christian family. Not in so many words, but attitudes. I know when I was going through my miscarriages some thought I should do something to prevent pregnancy. And I feel there are others thinking, with all the issues of this time, we should have not had so many kids. Then on the other side I feel like people are thinking because a person decides to be done that they are playing God. All of us have our opinion on the matter and can say what we think, but until it comes down to a personal decision for yourself then you really can't know. Seriously, whose business is it anyway?! I say, nobody's!!! It is between a husband, wife, and God how many kids they will have! 

5 comments:

  1. My doctor said the same thing to me. Before Hudson, I had 3 confirmed miscarriages, and 1 that I never went in for. I also had a very difficult pregnancy with him, torn placenta, pelvic separation, diabetes, 5000 PVC'S a day and finally my uterus partially ruptured. Before the rupture I was leaning toward having my tubes tied, but during my c-section she told me that she could clearly see Hudsons face without cutting my uterus. My uterus had almost completely torn apart at the scar tissue. At that point I knew I didn't have a choice. She had told me that if she hadn't taken hudson that morning, that we would of had a "very different outcome" in other words we would of both died. I had been in labor for over 2 days with contractions 3 min apart. The doctor in L&D that first saw me wanted to send me home...so I had my tubes tied...but still want another baby, it's hard. But I'm lucky to be here with my little angel huddles...

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  2. My doctor said the same thing to me. Before Hudson, I had 3 confirmed miscarriages, and 1 that I never went in for. I also had a very difficult pregnancy with him, torn placenta, pelvic separation, diabetes, 5000 PVC'S a day and finally my uterus partially ruptured. Before the rupture I was leaning toward having my tubes tied, but during my c-section she told me that she could clearly see Hudsons face without cutting my uterus. My uterus had almost completely torn apart at the scar tissue. At that point I knew I didn't have a choice. She had told me that if she hadn't taken hudson that morning, that we would of had a "very different outcome" in other words we would of both died. I had been in labor for over 2 days with contractions 3 min apart. The doctor in L&D that first saw me wanted to send me home...so I had my tubes tied...but still want another baby, it's hard. But I'm lucky to be here with my little angel huddles...

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  3. I'm praying for peace for you no matter what happens. Love you!

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  4. It is a very difficult place to be in. Praying for peace and for a safe pregnancy and delivery of a healthy baby!

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